id: first image is the tumblr halloween icon, which depicts a skeleton-like ghoul in a spooky red robe. the second image is the same ghoul, now photoshopped to look like they’re dabbing. end id
id: tags that read, “make her tpose.” end id.
On it boss
id: image of the same icon, now with the ghoul t-posing. end id.
Id: tag you that reads “let’s get this to 69k before Halloween people.” End id
Potentially Hot Take: there is no such thing as entirely unproblematic media.
If you look for something to be mad about, you will find it, regardless of what the thing is. This whole culture of “you are not allowed to engage with this thing because the person who created it said/did something problematic” is in itself dangerous for multiple reasons:
1) it’s putting creators on a pedestal which is impossible to live up to, because I don’t know of anyone who hasn’t said or done anything wrong ever.
2) it’s teaching everyone to have an almost obsessive concern that interacting with a form of problematic media makes them an inherently awful person.
3) it’s raising a generation with no critical thinking skills. Engaging with problematic media critically is so much more useful than pretending it doesn’t exist. To look at a thing and acknowledge its faults teaches someone so much more than just not looking at all.
the indescribable annoyingness that having new entry level knowledge into a field of study gives you is so unbelievably funny to me. babby psych students who become obsessed with diagnosing their friends with personality disorders for disagreeing with them. babby paleo students who get irrationally angry at plastic dinosaur toys for children. newly-identifying chefs/foodies who are ready to have a meltdown on anyone who cooks a steak to a wellness level they don’t enjoy. if youve ever wondered why every subreddit for every topic is Like That this shit is why
just because your area of study isn’t chemistry or anatomy doesn’t mean you’re any less of a mad scientist! mad astronomers are evil! mad botanists are fucked up! mad psychologists are twisted! all fields of mad science are valid!!
I can’t believe the Voltron crisis lasted only two years. Seven seasons in two years. Deranged. Awful time to be online. PEAK shipping discourse. And the evil is defeated.
I understand the confusion in the notes yes the nightmare was incredibly short lived and yet it felt eternal
Most of The Sims games from the 2000s are quickly becoming abandonware! Here’s where you can find them! Because FUCK Article 13! Dedicated to ANYONE who might be affected.
Just to add onto @uglytownie ‘s post about The Sims 2, I know there are some of you out there that would also like rarer titles from The Sims’ massive back catalog.
If anything happens to this blog because of this post: My NEW twitter handle is @nostalgiasim, my discord is SimWorld (this link never expires), and my personal Neocities page is myonlinepityparty.neocities.org.
i’ve been on hold at my library for a book about asexuality for a few weeks and i just read an article about some concepts in the book re: consent. and holy shit. blew my mind. i’ve NEVER read about consent in the context of a relationship with an ace and an allo that resonated so strongly with me, and as a person in such a relationship!! it’s so!!! i’m even more excited for the book now.
god okay, just to gush about this more, the author suggests using the categories of enthusiastic, willing, unwilling and coerced consent (rather than just “enthusiastic consent” or “no means no”). i really recommend reading the whole article linked above, but what blew my mind is the distinction between enthusiastic and willing consent. it gets broken down like this:
Enthusiastic consent:
When I want you
When I don’t fear the consequences of saying yes OR saying no
When saying no means missing out on something I want
Willing consent:
When I care about you though I don’t desire you (right now)
When I’m pretty sure saying yes will have an okay result and I think maybe that I’d regret saying no
When I believe that desire may begin after I say yes
and like!!! it made me realize i may have never actually enthusiastically consented in my life, but like, that doesn’t mean i have never or cannot consent! i almost always fall into the “willing consent” framework and i’ve never seen that….validated anywhere. anyway, it’s just given me this perspective about my sexuality and consent in general and better ways to relate to my partner and!!! idk!!! thank goodness for other ace people, is what i’m saying.
This is very useful and a lot of sex work can also be best understood as willing consent, where the indirect consequences of having sex (getting paid) are what is desired and the direct consequences (having probably-mediocre sex with someone you don’t actively desire) are not considered so negative that they outweigh the indirect consequences.
Which is a definition of consent that gives sex workers agency and sees their consent as a choice made again and again based on the pros and cons, not something that is coerced and also not something that always exists by default simply because they are sex workers.
Recognizing willing consent is probably validating for a lot of people who have consent to sex without meeting the definition of enthusiastic consent.
